I went to a great market in Jakarta just yesterday. I was waiting in a line to get a turn of occupying toilet. There were two women also standing in different line with me. They were talking and I was listening. Once, they arrived into a discussion about a woman become a worker as well as become a mother. One of them said, “It’s much better to work than taking care of children.” The other one said, “Well, I agree. I’d prefer to work too.” The first woman said again, “I’ve been living my children since the first child to be taken care of someone else, n I go to work.”
Isn’t it an irony? or a dilemma?
It hurt me inside when I heard it. Taking care of children seemed so much tiring and too hard to do for a mother. The way she expressed that, was really revealing everyone else who heard, that she did it because she didn’t want to do taking care of children, instead of being in need of money.
Well, as a young woman -who’s never been being a mother- what she did couldn’t be blamed as a whole thing. In one hand, she had a reason to earn money for her children, in the other hand she ain’t responsible to her own children, but in the concept of ‘responsibility’ of being a mother, she took someone else to take her position to take care of children while she’s going to work. This is not a thing that a mother leaves her children at all, not feeding, not providing clothes, house to live in, etc. This is about a mother who’s got to work.
Back again, it’s a dilemma, isn’t it?
Well, you might have been thinking about “Hey, why bother thinking about a mother got work, where’s the father? What’s he been doing until he let the mother work n let their children home, being taken care of someone else.” Dude, this is Indonesia, where anybody can work, work as anything. Even a woman might work as a mechanic, a bus driver, anything. Asking why? -MONEY-
The fathers also work, for sure. Somehow, women feel it’s better to work too, for their family.
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Someone had ever said, it’s much better for a woman to raise a child properly than to lead a great world-classed company. Which means, nothing more important for a mother than raising her children with whole love and heart.
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How about you all, young women? Are you gonna be a great mother or … ?
It’s your life, your right to choose, to live it happily, together with your children 
December 24, 2011
fatjan
