Hijab (Kerudung): ‘omelan’ dari hati yang terdalam

Tulisan ini awalnya hanya penambah komen di gambar penjelasan tentang hijab yang saya dpat dari fb orang lain dan saya share di timeline saya sendiri. Sesuai saran teman seperjuangan, Antikira Novichaka, saya post di sini jga. Dia bilang, bagus
Terima kasih.

Semoga bisa bermanfaat, Amin

waktu itu lagi di toko kerudung sama Mamah. Sambil milih2 n diskusi sama Mamah tentang krudung mana yg mw dibeli, dengan ‘semena-mena’ bibir ini berkata, “Aku ga pernah pake krudung paris cuma selapis, soalnya transparan. Buat apa pake krudung kalo transparan?”

~padahal penjual nya pake krudung nya selapis. langsung felt so guilty lah, tapi dilemma jga.

satu lg, barusan baca artikel tentang hijab yg baik n benar. salah satu di antaranya ga boleh yg menyerupai laki2, n pake clana panjang itu bsa mengindikasikan menyerupai laki2 (padahal sering bete kalo dilarang pake clana panjang, bkan brati ga suka sama skali pake rok)

masalah menutup kaki dari tumit sampe telapak juga sering disepelekan, padahal masuk aurat jga. alesan yg paling sering: males pake kaos kaki. :s

di mana pun n kapan pun, liat wanita yg hijabnya beneran bener (panjang kerudung sampai menutupi perut n di bagian lengan sampai siku, baju sampai lutut n ga ngetat, pake rok yg lose semata kaki, pake kaos kaki, pergelangan tangannya pun pake manset walau baju nya lengan nya uda sampe pergelangan tangan), selalu ada aura ‘indah yg sebenarnya’ di pandangan gw. Seperti melihat bidadari lewat.

tapi kalo liat cewe2 berkrudung yang krudung nya gahoelz (krudung panjang tapi ga dipake buat nutup dada melainkan dilingker ke leher, kalo diterawang pun masi bisa liat dalem nya yg ditutup pake kerudung; baju lengan panjang tapi ngetat -kadang lengannya cuma sampe siku or nanggung ga nyampe pergelangan tangan n ga pake manset-, clana panjang ngetat pula; ga pake kaos kaki; kalau lewat beraroma, kalo ga strawberry, vanilla, coklat -uda kaya ice cream aja, tinggal pilih- ; uda gitu di sebelahnya slalu ada pacarnya n gerak-gerik keduanya kaya pengantin baru). Udah lah, hati n benak gw bergejolak. Antara istigfar dan ‘menghardik’ orang lain.

gw sendiri jga belum yg memakai hijab completely beneran bener, masi ada kurang2 nya. tapi ini perkataan jujur dari hati yg terdalam n benak galau yg ga suka hijab ‘dipermainkan’ dngan semena-mena. munkin baca ini aga’ menusuk, bisa jga dianggap hanya omong blaka. tapi kalau mau ditelaah, Islam banyak aturan bukan mau semena2 mengekang wanita, membelenggu hak asasi or whatsoever, Islam hanya ingin mengangkat derajat wanita setinggi-tinggi nya n sebaik-baiknya, krna wanita sholihah di mata Islam itu sangat berharga, bahkan sering dibilang sebaik2 perhiasan dunia.

well, sama2 ikhtiar buat brusaha menggunakan hijab yg baik n benar aja yu ^^

Mother Got Work, an Irony or a Dilemma?

 

 

I went to a great market in Jakarta just yesterday. I was waiting in a line to get a turn of occupying toilet. There were two women also standing in different line with me. They were talking and I was listening. Once, they arrived into a discussion about a woman become a worker as well as become a mother. One of them said, “It’s much better to work than taking care of children.” The other one said, “Well, I agree. I’d prefer to work too.” The first woman said again, “I’ve been living my children since the first child to be taken care of someone else, n I go to work.”
Isn’t it an irony? or a dilemma?
It hurt me inside when I heard it. Taking care of children seemed so much tiring and too hard to do for a mother. The way she expressed that, was really revealing everyone else who heard, that she did it because she didn’t want to do taking care of children, instead of being in need of money.
Well, as a young woman -who’s never been being a mother- what she did couldn’t be blamed as a whole thing. In one hand, she had a reason to earn money for her children, in the other hand she ain’t responsible to her own children, but in the concept of ‘responsibility’ of being a mother, she took someone else to take her position to take care of children while she’s going to work. This is not a thing that a mother leaves her children at all, not feeding, not providing clothes, house to live in, etc. This is about a mother who’s got to work.
Back again, it’s a dilemma, isn’t it?
Well, you might have been thinking about “Hey, why bother thinking about a mother got work, where’s the father? What’s he been doing until he let the mother work n let their children home, being taken care of someone else.” Dude, this is Indonesia, where anybody can work, work as anything. Even a woman might work as a mechanic, a bus driver, anything. Asking why? -MONEY-
The fathers also work, for sure. Somehow, women feel it’s better to work too, for their family.

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Someone had ever said, it’s much better for a woman to raise a child properly than to lead a great world-classed company. Which means, nothing more important for a mother than raising her children with whole love and heart.

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How about you all, young women? Are you gonna be a great mother or … ?

It’s your life, your right to choose, to live it happily, together with your children

School Record, a Dilemma

School Record

We all know, every single parent always wants the best marks to be written on their chilren’s school record books. I bet the feeling when they see it depends on the how many 90s marks or A grade written. The more those marks appear, the more they’ll feel happy. n of course, vise versa.

today is the day, when my parents went to my siblings school to collect their school records of first sem study, first year for my sister n scond year for my brother. They both nw in senior high school. My Mom went to my sister’s n my Dad to my brother’s school. When they got home, at first they seemed so unhappy. I could feel a great shiver when they started arguing, a bit screaming n saying that my siblings aren’t good enough.

I tried my best to help them in Math. Both didn’t get 90s for that subject though :s
But, still good enough to be written on a school record.

One thing rlly hurt me inside n made me so guilty.
Y THE HELL WAS I FALLEN ASLEEP WHEN I WAS TEACHING MY SISTER PHYSICS?

I felt guilty, really. She must have got better score if I wasn’t asleep and kept teaching her. Es tut mir leid :s

After all, what my siblings have done is jst their best to do. My parents might hv had a greater expectation about those marks, just…. My siblings are them, not anybody else. Better not compare them to any other students. Bcause noone they could compete except their own selves. They are who they are.

Good job, for both of you, Anggo n Yuni. I appreciate your hard work, you guys need not to forget to keep improving your academic performance. Cause you should know, it’s one of the things that can bring a smile on our bloved parents’ faces

Love you, My Bro n Sist ^^

Reuni Kecil-kecilan,, Old Memories of Elemantary School :)

Today was the day ^^

We had been planning to gather among us (classmates in elementary schools) to gather on this day to hv a small nostalgia. Then, it was really the day. Although, there were only few of us coming, it was still felt so great. At first when I arrived in front of the front way of our Elemantary School building, I could feel a little shiver in my body, like something bit so hard. Well, ok. I was nervous, at first, I atmid.

After a while of waiting on the long branch made of cement stick to the boundary wall between SD 1 and SD 3, one of the teachers came out and she saw me. I shake and kiss her hand (Indonesian tradition of meeting older and honoured people). She asked me to come with into the teacher’s room. I was still shivering a bit, but I didn’t really care. I had to come in and see them. Of course.

It was about 75% improvement of our elemantary building school. At a glimpse, I did not know that it was my school. So many things have been upgraded. After all, it’s still my bloved school.

I was telling all the teachers in that room about myself, my study -most of it about studying in Malaysia-.
I couldn’t stand myself when they called me ‘Janna’ again, after long time. I almost forgot that I used to be called that way. A piece of memories was showed up suddenly inside my head. Memories…..

Not long after the talk, I left the room to get other students to come in too.
N,,,, this is it…. The one that was really special,,, again again n again…. Memoriess…….
Laughters, smiles, sweet talks, jokes, really…. What a missing memory had come out that way. I hardly describe it. Only my heart knows, how much I missed that place, those teachers, those friends, those laughters and smiles.
Alhamdulillah, thanks so much for my beloved Allah, for all these things. Alhamdulillah Ya Allah

Here are some pictures if you wanna check a little bit ^^

check’em out

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Going the Extra Miles

By: Fatma Janna, Serang, October 5, 2011

 

Have you ever heard this thing? “Going the Extra Miles” means doing extra effort, doing more or better then what common people usually do. For example, you are a student and most of your friends just study at school and two hours more at home every day as the time to do take home assignments. But you, because you want to “go the extra miles”, you add another couple hours to study every day at home, an hour for reviewing the lessons you had at school that day and the other hour is to study what the teachers will teach you tomorrow at school. By doing this regularly every day, you are going the extra miles. The result of this, of course as what you think, you will get great marks, the teachers will be proud of you and your parents will love you more.

Somehow, if you choose not to go the extra miles just because you think it is so tiring and wasting time, you know what it will be. You will only be an average student, getting average mark, your teachers will not be so attracted to you because you are just one of common students and your parents will just love you like the way they love your other sisters or brothers.

To do this extra effort is one of great methods of reaching your success. By doing more and better than common people do, you will be a special one. If you apply this method as an employee, your boss will soon promote your position because he knows you deserve this as the special one who always goes the extra miles, does better and more than common people do.

Another example, we can see famous football players in the world, like David Villa, Colonel Messi and Christiano Ronaldo. They never had regular football practices like the other average-paid football players do. They practice more and more, harder and harder. Even until they become like nowadays, they still practice hard. So, people around the world can see how their practices, their efforts, could make them become the best football players in the world.

Going the extra miles has not always to be a big thing like the hard football practices done by those famous football players. It can also be a little thing like checking over your assignment after you finished doing it once or twice, to make sure that every single answer you did was right.

One thing you always have to remember when applying this useful method. Going the extra miles does not mean to do extra effort which is illegal, like for example cheating. You might think that cheating on exam is one of forms of going the extra miles. No, it is not. You are wrong if you think so. Going the extra miles means doing more but still in the right path. Not doing illegal things, not at all.

Well, you might be right when you think that going the extra miles is tiring. Of course, when you want to be a successful one, you will never taste the sweetness of reaching the success without first enjoying the bitterness of doing hard work. One of these hard works is going the extra miles.

Hence, if you want to be that special person, the successful one, the one loved by many people, you’ve got to be going the extra miles.

There is Always Rainbow After the Rain Falls: There is Happiness Behind Every Sadness

 

By: Fatma Janna, Serang, October 5, 2011

 

Sadness always becomes the little part of our lives. No one can say that he or she never feels sad. Feeling sad because of losing someone, failing exam, being rejected, etc is really common in our daily lives. Somehow, have you ever realized that there is always happiness after being sad? Even a very small happiness can be felt so great once we have it right after being sad.

Someone says that life is very simple. It only contains happiness and sadness. Both things occur regularly, simultaneously following each other, one after another. That is why, people always say, do not be drawn so deep in your sadness because it will only be for a while and happiness is coming soon. In the other hand, do not be too proud once you are having your happiness because, for sure, it will be ending soon as well and replaced by another unknown sadness. Just try to be modest in both cases, being happy or sad.

People used to use this phrase when telling about happiness after sadness. “There is rainbow after the rain falls”. In other words, rainbow only appears after raining. There is a great but simple implicit message here. If we want to see the rainbow, we have to wait for the rain to fall. If we want to feel the happiness, we have to wait the sadness or any bitter memories to happen. Happiness occurs after a little wait.

This phrase is also used by people to hang on when they feel that their sadness is too bad or their unhealed wounds inside are opened too wide, it can make them feel sure that no matter how bad and deep the sadness is, no matter how big the scars on their hearts are, they will find an end of their bloody sadness. The happiness will be coming soon.

If only people who committed suicide knew and believed of this thing, they might be still alive now. They would cancel out their decision to end their lives. As we know, committing suicide often happened because they thought they could not make their lives any longer, like there is no other way they could do except committing suicide to escape from their problems. They gave up to every sadness and difficulty occurred in their lives. They were all wrong. They forgot that God never gives difficulty to His believers more then what they can overcome. This is why committing suicide is a very great sin.

Every difficulty that He made and gave us to taste its bitterness is just to make us understand and appreciate the sweetness of happiness. If all our lives only contain happiness, we will no longer feel it as happiness because we never know how bitter the sadness is. Isn’t it true?

So, do you have any other reason to surrender to your difficulties and sadness after knowing that every sadness will face its end and happiness will replace it? Do you still want to give up and stop believing that you still can make it no matter how hard it is? Believe it, time will remove your tears, God will happily heal your wounds on your heart, and happiness is always there on the corner waiting for you to pick it up and taste how sweet it is.

Inter-culture Friendship

different colour of skin, languages, cultures, food we used to eat, etc never matter. We are all just FRIENDS

Put this and keep it well inside your mind, guys

Jingga Dalam Elegi

I’ld like to tell you, guys, something.

I read a book list night, “Jingga Dalam Elegi” (Orange in A Sad Song, Fatma Englih translation version). It tells about two twin guys. They had to be separated since they were still too young for that, parents’ selfishness and short cut to solve problems –divorce-.

They were just eight years young brothers when Ata and their mother had to leave their home, leaving Ari –his twin brother- and their father at home.

It was so sad story, irony, tragic, bloody hardly story. They finally met again after nine years being separated by time and space. The time when every effort, sweat and blood, wish and pray to find back each other almost face their end, the happiness that could never be imagined, to meet again the beloved ones, to be with each other again.

_ “Water is more viscous then blood” _

I know I didn’t spend too much tears for it, somehow I exactly realized, my heart was crying so bad when I kept reading through that book. Bloody tears inside, though I know it’s just a fictive story.

I bet, the real story about broken home children out there might be much worse, completed with more unhealed wounds inside.
I now completely know and understand the happiness to be living in a complete family, no matter how big or small the house is, the completeness of us is a very great blessing from Allah.

Even if we don’t have indoor swimming pool at home, a wide and beautiful garden even a big aquarium, this completeness completely brightens our day. The spirit to keep struggling when we are far away from home, the missing part of our heart that we always miss from that very far away place from home, the place where we have to study for our more brightened life.
Talking about completeness of family, for those children with similar incomplete family causing by death (oprans), they have their own version of sad stories. Not much different, sadness of having the missing piece that will never be back.
Not seldom, this incomplete problem becomes a main reason for our sisters and brothers out there to run away from their real bloody sad life. Not seldom either, they stop and stay (in their lost souls) on drugs, alcohol, very bad and heavy cigarettes, even free sex or prostitution.
Irony, tragic, I know it is.
But, sorry guys, though I never know exactly how hard, heavy and sad it is to be the part of the incomplete family, I never agree, not even once, not even a second in my life, with you to do such illegal, non-moral, non-akhlak things. They only destroy your life more and more and even more to the very last drop of second of your life –death- .

If you can open your eyes, properly and widely, you will see that happiness can come from any way that He wants, from anybody that He sends, from any place that He provides for you that you never knew and realized before. Just keep on struggling in your bloody hell life while keep yourself away from those hell-things, the time will remove your tears, heal your wounds inside, put the bright and smile back on your face that you used to have and also make you realize and believe that you also deserve to live happily like the other happy and complete families.

Unfortunately and so sadly, the too much sadness in their life already closed their eyes completely that they cannot see anymore the righteous, cannot even try to open them. They are blind completely, till the very deepest part of their hearts -the biggest part of the broken heart can still be called as heart- they keep walking in the dark. Lost.

For us, the members of complete family, please….
Be grateful of we have today, respect all members of your beloved complete family, love them the way they are and always pray for them. Because no matter what, you are here now reading what I wrote, because of them, you can have those happiness because of them. Because of them.

They are your missing pieces, they are your blood, they are your family, they are also your life

Never forget to come back to your missing pieces, any time, any chance that you have. Cause for sure, they always miss you to come back home and always pray for you as well

What I did on latest holiday

I just stayed at home, went to public swimming pool once a week with my beloved Daddy and Aunty, played guitar, and made some crazy pictures.

Check them out!

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Renungan Bagaimana Menjalani Hidup

KENAPA AKU DIUJI….. ?

Surah al-ankabut ayat 2-3 Apakah manusia itu mengira bahwa mereka dibiarkan (saja) mengatakan: “”Kami telah beriman””, sedang mereka tidak diuji lagi?”. Dan sesungguhnya Kami telah menguji orang-orang yang sebelum mereka, maka sesungguhnya Allah mengetahui orang-orang yang benar dan sesungguhnya Dia mengetahui orang-orang yang dusta.

 

KENAPA AKU TIDAK MENDAPATKAN APA YANG AKU IDAM-IDAMKAN ?

Surat Albaqarah ayat 216 Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu, padahal ia amat baik bagimu, dan boleh jadi (pula) kamu menyukai sesuatu, padahal ia amat buruk bagimu; Allah mengetahui, sedang kamu tidak mengetahui.

 

KENAPA UJIAN SEBERAT INI?

Surat Al-baqarah ayat 286 Allah tidak membebani seseorang melainkam sesuai dengan kesanggupanya.

BAGAIMANA AKU HARUS MENGHADAPINYA?

Surah Al-Imram ayat 200 Hai orang-orang yang beriman, bersabarlah kamu dan kuatkanlah kesabaranmu dan tetaplah bersiap siaga (di perbatasan negerimu) dan bertakwalah kepada Allah supaya kamu beruntung.

Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 45 Dan mintalah pertolongan (kepada Allah) dengan sabar dan (mengerjakan) salat. Dan sesungguhnya yang demikian itu sungguh berat, kecuali bagi orang-orang yang khusyuk.

 

KEPADA SIAPA AKU BERHARAP ?

Surat At-Taubah ayat 129 …Cukuplah Allah bagiku; tidak ada Tuhan selain Dia. Hanya kepada-Nya aku bertawakal dan Dia adalah Tuhan yang memiliki Arasy yang agung. Subhanallah…Mari kita berbenah dan terus berbenah untuk mempersembahkan yang terbaik dalam masa hidup kita, dengan torehan kemuliaan dan semangat pantang menyerah dimanapun, kapanpun dan dengan siapapun. selama ALLAH SWT ” just the ONE goal“, insyaAllah kita akan “bahagia” sebagaimana doa yang sering kita lantunkan bahagia di dunia, bahagia di ahirat.

 

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